Forgiveness: Based on work by the psychologist Robert Enright.

Forgiveness is not condoning. It is not excusing the behavior. It is not saying what the other person did or said is okay.  

Forgiveness is not forgetting. In fact, sometimes it is really important to remember the offense so that we don’t allow ourselves to be back in a position where that person might hurt us again.  (Don’t stay in an abusive relationship.)

Forgiveness is not the same as justice or consequences. Even if a person is forgiven, he or she still must face the consequences of their actions. 

Forgiveness is not necessarily reconciliation - though it could lead to that if both parties so desire.

Forgiveness is letting go. It has to do with the state of our heart toward others. We do have a right to resentment, but forgiveness is letting go of that right. It is being able to let go bitterness and resentment and ideas of revenge. In a very real sense, it is about setting ourselves free.

Remember that you are forgiven by God, and called to share that forgiveness with others. (See Matthew 18:21-35.)

“I, even I, am the One who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more.” - Isaiah 43:25

“And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him…” Mark 11:25.